Walking around New York over the weekend, I spotted a sign on 3rd Avenue that said, "Husbands, we have the perfect gift for both of you: Laser hair removal!"

If you think unsolicited hair removal is the perfect gift for your sweetheart, we need to have a talk.

I don't want to suggest that it's never appropriate. Let's say your significant other is constantly lamenting the fact that finances are the only thing stopping her (or him) from zapping those hair follicles. By all means, hook 'em up with a gift card. (Here's a roundup of local favorites to get your started.) It shows that you were listening. But for the girl who—to use Gwyneth Paltrow's phrase—likes to "work a 70s vibe", that gift is not for her. Lasers, waxing, and sugaring all hurt. Ripping hair out of your body hurts. Unless she specifically requests that particular type of pain, don't suggest it.

Of course, laser hair removal isn't the only beauty gift you should steer clear of. Here are four more gifts to avoid, unless someone is asking for them.

Botox

Botox is expensive. It's also a personal choice. Some people like to delay the signs of aging with a couple injections. Others would rather have wrinkles than put actual poison in their faces. While Botox is safe, effective, and relatively painless, it's not something you bring up out of the blue with a gift. That's like asking, "Could you try to look less old?"

CoolSculpting

CoolSculpting is designed to freeze larger masses of fat, like love handles or belly rolls. Frankly, unless your partner explicitly requests for this treatment, it's not a good idea. No one wants to receive a gift that says, "You have fat rolls, and you need to freeze them off."

Gray hair coverups

I often see products like Color Wow!, Coloursplash, and Root Vanish in "stocking stuffer" roundups because (1) they work, and (2) they're under $50. I love finding a solution that makes my color last longer, or covers up a stray gray when I can't get to my colorist. What I don't like is getting a gift that implies, "Your hair looks like shit. Do something." If it's not on her Amazon wish list, don't buy it.

Juice cleanse

Admittedly, I'm opposed to juice cleanses. You can cut out sugar, grains, dairy, meat, and alcohol, and still find food to eat. I know plenty of people like to start the year with a juice cleanse, and those cleanses aren't cheap. So if your loved one tells you that she really, really, wants a cleanse from Project Juice or The Pressed Juicery, or wherever, then you know what to buy. But a randomly-suggested juice cleanse—even if it works for you—is not a good gift idea for someone else.

When it comes to beauty gifts, stick with items or services designed to relax, rather than change, the recipient. A massage, a manicure, a hot spring soak, or even essential oils are thoughtful and unlikely to offend. For bigger-ticket items, try a gift certificate to a fancy spa. (I recommend these.) Remember: your goal, in whatever present you select, is to make bae feel special and loved. When in doubt, ask three friends their opinions on your idea, and go with the majority.

5 Beauty Gifts You Shouldn't Buy for Your Boo

Botox

CoolSculpting

Gray hair coverups

Juice cleanse